Do you want more from your life – more money, more freedom, more time for yourself?
If you’re like me, the answer is YES!
As women we are constantly faced with the demands of life – work, relationships, children, family, etc.
We learn from an early age that being a woman means sacrificing yourself to the greater good of all. Whether it’s your spouse, your child(ren), your boss, hopeless siblings and countless friends – there is always someone who seems to want something from us, and we just give, give, give.
We end up giving away SO much of ourselves throughout the day that we have nothing left by the end of it.
Exhausted and stressed beyond recognition women walk around on autopilot catering to the needs of others and forgetting their own. Well it’s time to remember.
The first thing we need to ask ourselves is, What do women need?
Besides the obvious,
- HEALTHY FOODS
(yes, sex is a need: http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/guide/sex-and-health)
Women need purpose.
And not just purpose for purpose sake. They need to know that everything they’ve endured, lived through, fought, relished in, cried & laughed over was for a reason. That it was and still is for SOMETHING MORE.
Over the past ten years, I have worked with hundreds of women who have all come to me with the same request – HELP! From different backgrounds, races, financial classes and stages in life they all sought help to find the reason for the madness. They needed it to make sense because in doing that, they were able to make sense of who they were.
Whether you’re married or single, financially independent or slaving away at a desk, you can find freedom by uncovering the top layers of everyday pursuits like money, sex & finding our soul mate and discover something deeper…
YOUR TRUE SELF.
Doing this is no easy task so, below I have pulled a few questions and statements which can help you begin to peel away the layers as they have for many of my clients.
1. What do you desire?
What are the things in life you crave most and want for yourself? Is it a house on the beach? A night out with the hot check-out guy/girl at your favorite store? Is it sailing on the Mediterranean…with the check-out guy?
It can be the most outrageous, extravagant wish you can think of.
WRITE IT DOWN.
2. If you had to give me a list of your greatest successes in life, what would it look like?
Write down everything you’re proud of. This is your chance to boast! Now, before you think “I don’t have any GREAT success stories” I want you to know that it can be anything you feel you have succeeded through; great or small. Something seemingly insignificant to you may be a challenge for someone else – ALL OF IT MATTERS.
For example, getting out of bed and taking a walk despite the feeling to do the opposite IS an achievement.
WRITE IT DOWN.
3. Give Thanks.
Take a look around you. What are the things you are grateful for? Your comfy bed? Your family? The work that you do? This is about opening yourself up to a place of vulnerability within you by saying, “Thanks” for everything you have experienced.
WRITE IT DOWN.
4. Forgive YourSelf.
I won’t sit here and pretend that writing a wish list will eradicate all of your problems. There are plenty of sites promoting happiness and life cures with blanket remedies to finding your purpose and living your best life.
You will continue to fall prey to the usual saboteurs, Self-Doubt, Fear & Anxiety if you don’t forgive yourself, FIRST!
This step is crucial because it determines where you move from this spot in your life. Much of the suffering experienced in life is due to a lack of awareness.
When you realize that suffering and joy are equal facets of life and BOTH bring value you will begin to come from a place of acceptance. And self-acceptance leads to forgiveness.